With the holiday season approaching, we are all bombarded with the expectation of gifts, lists and shopping. It’s GET, GET, GET! At work, I started to ask kids what they are wishing to get from Santa. And with the answers I am getting, Santa is loaded. They want Ipads, laptops, Iphones, UGG boots and thats just the beginning.
I’m not shocked at what kids ask for because 90% of the time they get it and not just at Christmas. Parents and grandparents spend hundreds of dollars on Christmas presents. What kid needs a laptop? I didn’t get mine until I went to college and I had to use my grad party money to purchase it. I almost think that parents spoiled their kids to please themselves.
It’s BPES (BEST PARENT EVER SYNDROME). “I’m the better parent because look what I bought MY kids.” Bravo you are raising a spoiled little a$$holes who get everything they want and will never learn to support themselves. And guess what…if I had kids I would probably be the same way. (reason #437 why I’m not having them). I know both of my parents didn’t grow up with much, so naturally you want to do more your your own children.
I have a cure for BPES and how our future generations can be well rounded! I think for Christmas EVERYONE should take a different approach. Kids and adults should ask for a NEED, a WANT, an EXPEREIENCE and a GIVE. We all make lists, so this year make a revamped list.
NEED: We all have necessities that are purchased throughout the year just because. But what if you could tie that NEED in with a holiday gift. I am so shocked at the high end items kids own and yes I understand they need new winter boots, jeans etc. Well they expect these items because every other kid own it. They need to realize you don’t just get stuff. I know kids who own multiple UGG boots, high end jeans, have the latest phone and wear LuluLemon…Shoot me. I don’t have half that stuff and I’m an adult with money and a job.
I’m not saying they can’t get that stuff but then buy the ONE need for the holiday, not all. My mom used to put a pair of sunglasses and a swimsuit in our Easter baskets to prepare for summer.
WANT: This can be the fun spoiling item. They ask, they receive and then they trash it and forget about it a year later (if that). But we all want things and it makes us happy so once a year its fine. I’m guilty of getting myself what I want when I want it, the difference is I was raised to be independent and work for what I want. You can also mix their need of new jeans with their want of whatever designer crap kids wear.
EXPERIENCE: Spring Break is 8-10 weeks after Christmas, why is that not a gift? My parents didn’t have the money to bring us on spring break or very many vacations at all, yet half of the kids I know expect it. Most children are in some kind of sport, why isn’t that part of a gift? The experience doesn’t have to be expensive either, go to a water park hotel for the night, go iceskating, learn to ski, and even just take the time to play a board game or bake cookies. Life is so crazy that just taking time to be around each other is memorable. The ideas are endless and will last forever in your kids memory.
I know a family whose parents are very well off and she gets worried that her kids are having high expectations since the grandparents bring them on a Disney Cruise every year. It’s their Christmas gift and yes its big, but at the same time wouldn’t you rather your kids spend time with their grandparents making lasting memories for both parties versus the kids just getting the cash later in life.
I’m stressing over what to get my niece and nephews for the holidays. They are just babies and clothes are short lived. I’m thinking of starting a savings account to be able to bring them to Disney World when they are older, making memories with Auntie La La and Uncle Poo Poo.
GIFT: I have definitely spoiled myself over the years and feel guilty about it when I know I have way more than I could ever ask for. Children need to learn at a young age how fortunate they are. There are so may ways your child can give a gift of need to someone less fortunate. I found a website for my family this year where we are buying them a goat and chickens to provide a food source. I know plenty of churches that have giving trees and all these families ask for is cleaning supplies, coats and other necessities.
One of my girlfriends has her daughter donate the gifts she gets from either her friend or family birthday party. What an amazing idea? What kid needs 10 different presents from their friends and then even more from family? The memory that she has helped put smiles on sick kids faces will shape her to be an amazing woman.
It’s a weird society that we live in. Everyone wants the best, to be the best and we are all insecure. We buy things to make us happy but its very short lived. This holiday season try and focus on balance and teaching others around you to give, trust me the feeling lasts forever. One tip I love for myself as a reminder is EVERYTIME I walk past a Salvation Army Red Kettle, I put something in it. You are walking into a store to spend $$, I almost feel selfish when I don’t donate and honestly I judge people that don’t contribute or even say hello or happy holidays to the volunteer.
Cheers to a SAFE, HAPPY, BLESSED holiday season. Be thankful for the life you have!❤️