Blue Apron -Friday Favorite

I love Thursdays! Want to know why?

It’s when my Blue Apron box is delivered with exciting new meals for me to try.

This is a review of why I suggest Blue Apron and how its working for my husband and I.

I was introduced by my friend, who had sent me a free week! $60 worth of food for free…DUH! So I signed up and BOOM, Thursday morning came and my ingredients for 3 amazing meals were at my door step. We had Pork BBQ burgers, a spicy pasta and chicken with korean rice cakes.img_9125 Continue reading “Blue Apron -Friday Favorite”

Your hairdresser wants you to know…

1. Just a Job.

I have quite a few stories about how clients don’t quite understand our profession. They think this is a part time job and are still in school, that we need a boyfriend/husband to support us or that its a short lived career. This couldn’t be more wrong. Yes, there are stylists who do this as a hobby, but the serious ones build a business. All of us can support ourselves and have flexible schedules to be with family or pursue experiences. It can be a short lived career if you don’t continue with advanced education and don’t take care of your body. It’s a career that I plan to stick with for life.

2. We value our relationship with you.ūüíᬆ

I am very close with a majority of my clients. I know their secrets, listen to their stories and support them. We share family experiences, laughter, tears and gossip. In return, they support me and I let them into my life. My clients know WAY too much about me but I want it that way. ¬†I build trust and a lasting friendship. I love seeing my clients around town and love hanging out with them. ¬†If your stylists doesn’t show appreciation, I suggest you find someone who shows gratitude to you. You are part of their business and without you, they don’t have a clientele.

3. TRUST US. 

You are our walking advertisements. We wouldn’t do anything that would make you look pale, heavy or old. We are experts in trends, skin tones and shapes. We have a highly trained eye and will make you look and feel good.

“If you don’t look good, I don’t look good”

4. We love visuals. 

I love it when my clients bring in photos because it helps us get on the same page and I can point out things visually. Some hairdressers would disagree and complain that everyone brings in Jennifer Aniston and Victoria Secret models hair-inspos. They claim that it gives the client an unfair expectation.¬†To me, its not any different than bringing in the “pretty girl” photo off Instagram. Most people look at the photo as a whole before they focus on the hair. I recommend¬†putting your thumb over the face and really look at the hair. A great stylist will explain what works for your hair type and give you a realistic expectation.

5. Sick days

I don’t want you coming in ill,ūüôÖ let alone, do you want me up in your personal space when I’m sick? At the beginning of my career, I came into work many times when I was really sick. I was afraid my clients would be upset if I cancelled and never come back. This could not be more untrue. Now in my career, if I’m not 100%, you don’t deserve less than that, so I am listening to my body and calling in.

Most of you may not know that hairdresser’s do not get paid sick days. At my salon, we are lucky and earn 2 paid weeks off but they aren’t worth using when we are gone only a day or 2. So please realize, we don’t “fake” sick like some people do or can. Clients rely on us to be there. ¬†Understand that we know you have plans and are crazy excited to get your hair done, so we cancel only when its absolutely necessary.

6. Schedules ūüďÜ

Most stylists have flexibility, but with flexibility comes lack of respect. For the first 8 years of my career, I was a¬†YES¬†girl. I stayed late, skipped lunch and worked my days off to accommodate my clients. This did help me build the biggest clientele in the salon, but I missed out on self care, events with friends and time with my husband. We understand that your life gets busy and once in a while we can help you out but if you are a repeat offender and constantly ask for special favors, it’s hard to want to keep you.

I let my clients know that if they have difficulty getting an appointment, to book the soonest available and then reach out to me to get on a cancellation list! You never know when it could be your lucky day. Depending on your relationship with your stylist, you might be able to reach out to them personally.

7. Etiquette

¬†A few little tips…

-Please close your eyes while we are shampooing your hair, unless we are having a conversation. ūüíÜ I don’t need you to see if I have any bats in the cave and its creepy when you stare up at me and it’s silent. Trust me, a shampoo is much more relaxing with your eyes closed.

-When we offer you a beverage, please actually drink it. I throw away so many bottles of water that have been sipped twice.

-We love gifts but don’t expect them.

-When we are done with your relaxing shampoo and condition, please use your core to sit up. I have had so many people dead weight me without warning. Doing this will shorten our relationship due to my massive back injuries. Unless you have a back injury or are uber pregnant, you are all capable of sitting up. Congrats, I helped you do your one sit up for the day.

-You can’t rush hair. Don’t over schedule yourself around your appointment. Most color and cuts, you can expect to be in our chair for 2 hrs.

-If you want a major change, reach out to your stylist before you book an appointment. My clients send me photos for their next hair idea, which is great since some of these colors need more time to achieve this look.

-We understand it if you are late, because we run late. But when you are late and show up with a Starbucks ‚ėēÔłŹ and didn’t even get us one…NOT COOL! (P.S my summer order is a Venti iced 1/2 green 1/2 passion tea unsweetened)

8. Products

We recommend products for you because it’s our job. We know your hair needs so why buy from someone who doesn’t know your hair or purchase from a random drug store with “salon quality” products? There are hairdresser’s out there who definitely oversell just to make extra $$, but most of us with integrity sell you what you need. You invest a lot into your cut and color, we just want to give you insurance on your new style. You insure your car and home, why not your hair?¬†Most products last MUCH longer than you think, when used correctly. ¬†Your hair is the most noticed accessory you own, protect it!

Have an honest conversation with your stylist about your needs and budget. Most salons carry various product lines. YOU get to decide how much you want to invest. We won’t judge, but no complaining when your drug store brand product doesn’t achieve your desired look.

9. Advanced Education

If your stylist is raising their prices, you have the right to ask how they earned it. I never get nervous to raise my prices because I have advanced/continuing education to back it up. Not only do I attend classes my company offers, I invest my own money into color or cut classes in NYC, Miami, LA, Nashville and Chicago. Last year alone, I invested thousands of dollars into learning new techniques for you! I have had the chance to learn from the best. ¬†You deserve the best from your stylist. If they don’t care about learning, getting re-inspired and adding more tools to their toolbox, they don’t deserve your business.

10. Cancelations / No-shows

A majority of hair dresser’s are paid commission, meaning if there is not a warm body in our chair, we aren’t making money. Life does get in the way, so we recognize and respect that. Do understand when you do not show up, you are taking money out of our pocket. If this becomes a repeat pattern, we have the right to warn you.

The service industry is a fun, yet crazy business. Just because it is our job to serve you, doesn’t mean we don’t have any rights. We can and will fire you if you disrespect the craft or us. Luckily once you are a seasoned stylist, your clients are almost perfect.

I appreciate you!

A thank you to my clients,

               I truly appreciate every single one of you. Month after month, year after year, you continue to support my business and career. You push me to be a more passionate hairdresser. You deserve the best version of me every time you sit in my chair, and I hope you feel it.

              Thank you for being patient with my schedule this year, allowing me to travel with Ryan and take some time for me. I appreciate your flexibility and planning in advance so that we can continue to create and build our hair-relationship.  In return, some of those trips, I took the chance and invested in my career building on my color expertise at Wella in LA, grew my advanced cutting skills at Bumble and Bumble University in NYC and Oribe in Miami and was taught how to build my career on the business side at Styling your Career at Bumble and Bumble.

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¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†2015 gave us a lot of laughs, tears, connection, drama and great gossip. I love hearing about your families, travels, great shows and restaurants and most of all, YOU! I’m honored to be your stylist, therapist and friend. I’m excited¬†to see what 2016 brings us. ¬†Cheers to another year of amazing hairdressing!

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Dirty Little Secret

I’m not good enough…

I’m not writing this for sympathy or for you to pity me. I’m not looking for positive reinforcement or judgement. I am simply writing this for myself and for others who might be going through the same thing.

I am depressed and have constant anxiety.  I hate my body. I binge eat super naughty foods. And most days I judge and shame myself.

I am in constant fight mode. My defenses are up because of my need to be’s and not enough’s;

I need to be happy.

I need to be healthy.

I’m not enough at my job.

I need to be the perfect wife.

I need to be a motivator.

I need to be a success.

I don’t fit in with my friends lifestyles.

I need to be more…

Holy $hit! I’m exhausted. I care so much about how other people perceive me, that my ego is constantly on and it’s struggling to keep up. I put up a very good disguise. It’s an act that I’m a part of 24/7.

I have a great life. I am married to an amazing man who loves me for who I am. I have a loving family, awesome friends and a very successful career, so I am supposed to be happy, right? ¬†My career is based on me being happy and making my clients look their best and feel their best. How I am supposed to help them feel better when internally I’m a hot mess and am a fraud? A majority of my co-workers are fun to be around but it’s a deadly combo. You mix a bunch of insecure, judge mental women together and it’s toxic. I’m not attacking all of them but there are a select few I’m distancing myself from. How can I be real when a facade surrounds me?

I always tracked my weight and over the years it goes up and up and up. Currently I am sitting at 170 lbs. Yes I have some muscle but my addiction to sugar to make am feel happy has put a padding around it. My weight goes up and down because my mood goes up and down. I let my weight define who I am and what I deserve. ¬†I am always looking for that “miracle” to fix me. I crash diet, workout like crazy, change my birth control, try blaming it hormones and try any cream or wrap to lose the inches. None of it worked.

I currently talk to a therapist and at the beginning of the year I was feeling great. I had a new plan to fix my metabolism, the witch at work was out of my life, I was turning 30, had an year filled with fun ahead and finally felt balanced. My therapist taught me that my worth wasn’t based on the number on the scale or what others thought about me. Self-care was very important (see Self Care blog). I had confidence. I was traveling with my husband. I was smiling. I felt genuine. I felt like myself and was comfortable being me.

Summer came along and I started to fall off track with my eating, self care, therapist appointments and changed my birth control. I had no idea how sensitive I was with my hormones. I slowly started slipping away from my mantras and beliefs and fell into the “social” norm. I started judging others to lift myself up and hopped on the Shame Train. I started comparing and felt like I was falling short. I was questioning every single thought and move I made and tortured my self with negative thoughts.

I was falling apart. I dreaded going to work. My marriage was passive and I secluded myself from friends and family. November and December were¬†the worst. I was in a dark place…all by myself. I didn’t want to be around anyone. My estrogen levels were so high that every morning I would get up, binge on Caribou donuts, sugar coffee drinks and Starbucks breakfast sandwiches. I would eat, fall back to sleep for 2-3 hrs and get up and force myself to make it through the day. I hated getting ready. I starred at my body every morning, shaming it and punishing myself by eating more crappy food. I was eating fast food (which I had not consumed in 16 months), drinking wine every night, and was a lazy, lifeless body. Joy and self love a a thing in the past.

I would cry over anything and everything. I hysterically bawled when Dumbledore died in Harry Potter, when ever I heard certain songs and every morning when I woke up and saw my reflection. I couldn’t stop. I also had anger issues and my anxiety was through the roof. I was frustrated with myself and fighting. Over Christmas all I did was cry. I was at the bottom and couldn’t see the light.

The Tuesday after Christmas, I met with my “team” of professionals to get me on the right path. I started a cleanse to get all the inflammation out of my stomach and to re-train my taste buds and brain to not rave sugar. My therapist finally pushed me to cry. She helped me come to the realization that I don’t love myself and don’t think I’m deserving of just being me and that being enough.

As of today, as I’m sitting on the plane heading to Miami, I am feeling OK. The past 10 days has been baby steps to a healthier me. I took the time to prep food, enjoy yoga, clean my house when I felt like it, and told myself that Miami won’t be anymore or less fun with the way my body looks. If someone wants to judge me, I applaud them and hope it brings them happiness. My therapist gave me a great mantra from Brene Brown; ” In my defenselessness, my safety lies”. This is from her book Daring Greatly,¬†which I just started reading. Once I put my fists down and was gentle with myself, I knew I could get out of this dark hole.

I AM ENOUGH…

 

 

 

 

 

PRESENTS!!!!

With the holiday season approaching, we are all bombarded with the expectation of gifts, lists and shopping. It’s GET, GET, GET! At work, I started to ask kids what they are wishing to get from Santa. And with the answers I am getting, Santa is loaded. They want Ipads, laptops, Iphones, UGG boots and thats just the beginning.

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I’m not shocked at what kids ask for because 90% of the time they get it and not just at Christmas. Parents and grandparents spend hundreds of dollars on Christmas presents. What kid needs a laptop? I didn’t get mine until I went to college and I had to use my grad party money to purchase it. I almost think that parents spoiled their kids to please themselves.

It’s BPES (BEST PARENT EVER SYNDROME). “I’m the better parent because look what I bought MY kids.” Bravo you are raising a spoiled little a$$holes who get everything they want and will never learn to support themselves. And guess what…if I had kids I would probably be the same way. (reason #437 why I’m not having them). I know both of my parents didn’t grow up with much, so naturally you want to do more your your own children.

I have a cure for BPES and how our future generations can be well rounded! I think for Christmas EVERYONE should take a different approach. Kids and adults should ask for a NEED, a WANT, an EXPEREIENCE and a GIVE. We all make lists, so this year make a revamped list.

NEED:¬†We all have necessities that are purchased throughout the year just because. But what if you could tie that NEED in with a holiday gift. I am so shocked at the high end items kids own and yes I understand they need new winter boots, jeans etc. Well they expect these items because every other kid own it. They need to realize you don’t just get stuff. I know kids who own multiple UGG boots, high end jeans, have the latest phone and wear LuluLemon…Shoot me. I don’t have half that stuff and I’m an adult with money and a job.

I’m not saying they can’t get that stuff but then buy the ONE need for the holiday, not all. My mom used to put a pair of sunglasses and a swimsuit in our Easter baskets to prepare for summer.

WANT: This can be the fun spoiling item. They ask, they receive and then they trash it and forget about it a year later (if that). But we all want things and it makes us happy so once a year its fine. I’m guilty of getting myself what I want when I want it, the difference is I was raised to be independent and work for what I want. ¬†You can also mix their need of new jeans with their want of whatever designer crap kids wear.

EXPERIENCE: Spring Break is 8-10 weeks after Christmas, why is that not a gift? My parents didn’t have the money to bring us on spring break or very many vacations at all, ¬†yet half of the kids I know expect it. Most children are in some kind of sport, why isn’t that part of a gift? The experience doesn’t have to be expensive either, go to a water park hotel for the night, go iceskating, learn to ski, and even just take the time to play a board game or bake cookies. Life is so crazy that just taking time to be around each other is memorable. ¬†The ideas are endless and will last forever in your kids memory.

I know a family whose parents are very well off and she gets worried that her kids are having high expectations since the grandparents bring them on a Disney Cruise every year. It’s their Christmas gift and yes its big, but at the same time wouldn’t you rather your kids spend time with their grandparents making lasting memories for both parties versus the kids just getting the cash later in life.

I’m stressing over what to get my niece and nephews for the holidays. They are just babies and clothes are short lived. I’m thinking of starting a savings account to be able to bring them to Disney World when they are older, making memories with Auntie La La and Uncle Poo Poo.

GIFT: I have definitely spoiled myself over the years and feel guilty about it when I know I have way more than I could ever ask for. Children need to learn at a young age how fortunate they are.  There are so may ways your child can give a gift of need to someone less fortunate. I found a website for my family this year where we are buying them a goat and chickens to provide a food source. I know plenty of churches that have giving trees and all these families ask for is cleaning supplies, coats and other necessities.

One of my girlfriends has her daughter donate the gifts she gets from either her friend or family birthday party. What an amazing idea? What kid needs 10 different presents from their friends and then even more from family? The memory that she has helped put smiles on sick kids faces will shape her to be an amazing woman.

It’s a weird society that we live in. Everyone wants the best, to be the best and we are all insecure. We buy things to make us happy but its very short lived. This holiday season try and focus on balance and teaching others around you to give, trust me the feeling lasts forever. One tip I love for myself as a reminder is EVERYTIME I walk past a Salvation Army Red Kettle, I put something in it. You are walking into a store to spend $$, I almost feel selfish when I don’t donate and honestly I judge people that don’t contribute or even say hello or happy holidays to the volunteer.

Cheers to a SAFE, HAPPY, BLESSED holiday season. Be thankful for the life you have!‚̧ԳŹ

 

Friday Favorites: Palettes!

Ok, so I will be the first to admit I hate doing my makeup. I honestly can’t stand girls that take more than 3 minutes to do their “everyday” look. Its simple, one color shadow, liner, mascara and tinted moisturizer. Who has time everyday to prime, contour, coverup and blend? If you do, I can suggest some other activities for you. I believe a woman’s daily look should be natural and fresh. It’s so funny to me how some people I know are almost unrecognizable without makeup. Why wear so much?

Now when you have a fun night out, that is a different story. I like to do special event makeup INSERT my Urban Decay NAKED palettes!

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These palettes make creating a pretty eye really easy. I own NAKED, NAKED 2 and NAKED smoky! Only missing NAKED 3. I love that I can try out multiple shades and they come with great application brushes, Another reason these little ladies are fabulous, is with all of my traveling, I can easily pack them up. I order them off Sephora.com. This way I can get my 3 samples! WIN!

Friday Favorites!!!

Every Friday I am going to post and talk about some of my favorite things, places, food and subjects! These are all things I’m obsessed with! I guess just like Oprah and Ellen, I want to let all of you know about the things I love!

My first Favorite Friday is…

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I know its so cliche, but there is something about holding that cup and sipping on its goodness that pure bliss. I do admit I need to be better about not going almost everyday…put that CA$H in my 401k, but at the same time life is short, I work hard, so gimme that $3 cup of joy!

My favorites there are a grande americano with 2 pumps white mocha and now they offer coconut milk so add a grande coconut milk latte with 1 pump caramel to the roster! Yup, Im that picky B**ch with the crazy selective order.

I know Starbucks is a giant corporation and we should support the small coffee business and sometimes i do, but being as picky as I am, I like consistency and Starbucks offers it.

FUN FACTS:

  • 22,551 stores in 65 countries
  • First Starbucks opened in Seattle, Washington, on March 30, 1971
  • Starbucks has agreed to a partnership with Apple to collaborate on selling music as part of the “coffeehouse experience”.
  • In 1999, Starbucks started “Grounds for your Garden” to make their business environmentally friendlier.
  • In 2008, Starbucks was ranked No.15 on the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency’s list of Top 25 Green Power Partners for purchases of renewable energy.
  • Offer a college achievement plan with ASU

*source: WIKIEPEDIA

“Starbucks Company Profile” (PDF) (PDF). Starbucks Coffee Company. July 2014.

Time Out (2011). Time Out Guide San Francisco. Time Out Guides. ISBN 978-1-84670-220-4. Retrieved 9 April 2013.

Skinny Spaghetti

Who doesn’t love quick, simple, easy meals for dinner? I cooked this meal for dinner on Thursday before work. Whenever I cook a meal, I make 2-3 extra servings to eat for lunch or dinner the rest of the week! This one is awesome because you can freeze your meat sauce for meals within the month. ¬†Enjoy!

Bison/Turkey Zucchini Spaghetti 

Serves 9

Cal: 284    P: 28.5     F:11    C: 16

 

Ingredients:

-1.25 pounds of ground bison (I use Kivasun from Costco)

-1.25 pounds of ground turkey

-small can of Muir Glen fire toasted diced tomatoes

– large jar of Muir a Glen garlic roasted pasta sauce

-6 medium zucchini
Steps: 

1. Use spiralizer to make zucchini noodles. I find that if you use paper towels and press to get out the moisture, they have a little more crunch.

2. Spread zucchini noodles on pan and bake for 10 mins at 350 degrees. I go blot out water halfway through and rotate around.

 3. While the noodles are baking, brown turkey and bison on stove top.

4. Once cooked, add both the diced tomatoes and pasta sauce.
When serving, I measured 1/2 cup zucchini noodles and 1 cup sauce. Top with fresh Parmesan and enjoy a glass of red wine!


Viola! Bon appetite! 

Berry cashew cocoa chips!

I LOVE chocolate! I am one of those people that craves something sweet pretty much all the time. I decided to create my own chocolate dessert that is naturally sweet with natural sugar.

Here’s what you need:

1 bag of Simply Balanced dried strawberries(Target)

1 bag of Simply Balanced dried raspberries (Target)

1/2 c unsalted roasted cashews

1c Ghirardelli semi sweet chocolate chips

1c Ghirardelli 60% cocoa chips

1 tbsp finely shredded coconut

wax paper

cookie sheet

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Steps:

1. I first cup my dried strawberries in half since they were pretty big.

2. Lay wax paper over cookie sheet. Melt the chips together in microwave. Once they are melted, mix up and start creating circles. I used a tbsp to measure and created 22 chips.

3. On each chip, I put one cashew, one strawberry and one raspberry on top. I used the finely shredded coconut for fancy sprinkles!

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Nutrition: One chip

88 cal, 5.6 g fat, 11 g carbs, 8.3 g sugar, 1.4 g protein